Modern Fairytale Series: Alan and Hilary




*Sometimes it is so easy to get wrapped up in what is wrong with the world, that we forget to celebrate the love and goodness that is in our lives.  I wanted to do an interview series about modern relationships and their dynamics.  What do you celebrate about your relationship? What keeps you and your partner together? Let's hear it and remember that even with all that is wrong with the outside world, sometimes the best spot is in the arms of your cherished partner!
xoxo Katty Delux


Name(s): 
Hilary & Alan 

Age(s): 
26 & 31

How long have you been together: 
6 years-married 4 (going on 5)

Are you married, engaged, dating, domestic partnership: 
He put a ring on it.

How long have you known each other:
 6 years

How long were you together before you took the next step in your relationship: (not necessarily marriage, ex: how long were you friends before you started dating? how long were you engaged before marriage?) 
Well... I met Alan on eharmony. (Two thumbs waaaaay up if you haven't tried it yet and you're looking). He lived in Kansas City and I lived in a suburb outside of Chicago. We chatted for about a month before we met in person (I brought two of my friends with for safety). Once I met him, I knew for sure he was the guy I would be with. So much so, I cried because I quickly realized all the plans I had for my own life were about to radically change. I was only 20, still in college, and had recently decided that I wouldn't get married-ever. My future was fostering kids & cats, but living the highlife in an apartment in Chicago until my first gray hair showed up. He foiled all my cat lady plans! Ugh!

Well, I knew. He knew. We both knew after that. A month later when I was visiting him, I found an engagement ring in his junk drawer while looking for batteries. I didn't open it! I called him and told him to come home and put that sucka somewhere I wouldn't find it because the temptation was too much! I didn't want to ruin his plan. 3 months later we were engaged on a beach in Seattle. About 1 year after that, we were married. 2 years later our first kiddo Emmett arrived. We just had our second baby, Dottie 6 months ago.






What initially attracted you to your partner? 
My hubs is the sweetest & most thoughtful person. He would send me pictures in the mail and turn them into post cards. On each one he would write how the picture was beautiful-like me-and how whatever beautiful thing in the photo would remind him of me in someway. That is just the tip of his thoughtfulness  iceberg. Once you have kids, it gets harder to be thoughtful, but he still manages to do it. On Monday, he sent me the sweetest OK GO song called Lullaby. He said the lyrics reminded him of me and how they were beautiful. :)

What is your favorite thing/attribute about your partner?
Besides his stellar personality (& awesome dad skills) my guy is a babe! He has the most handsome eyes and the sweetest smile. He knows how to make me laugh and he is there for me when I cry.

Do you have children and/or pets together? 
We have lived together 5 years. We have 2 beautiful kids-Emmet (2.5) and Dottie (6 months) and Harley our Bassett hound is 6 years old.




What is your secret to a successful relationship? 
As much awesome stuff as I said about Al and me, we do fight! And sometimes being married feels more lonely than being single (imagine feeling isolated from the one person you care about the most? Ultimate loneliness). But all that stuff happens. Life is real and babies leave you tired. SO. TIRED. Alan also works a job where he is gone often. It's hard to put in the effort in sometimes. I'm not a marriage expert, but I'm pretty good with people, and I know that if I make eye contact with Alan and smile at him, he smiles back. The secret might be that. Don't forget about how much you love each other.

What is your parting advice that you would like to leave for other couples?
Remember how much you love each other, at every moment of your relationship. Let yourself be vulnerable with him and let him be strong for you, sometimes. (I have to tell myself it's okay to do that...because it is!) 

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